Have you ever stopped to think that you're playing a game you might not know the rules to?
Relationship is the biggest game on the planet and most of us don't know the rules. We therefore don't know how to play successfully and with ease. 1
What do I mean by this?
From whom did you learn "the rules" of relationship, that is, how to relate to yourself, others, and everything around you? Are your rules yours or were they passed down to you from someone or somewhere else?
Most of us learned how to relate to others and the world from family, organized religion, society, etc. While we may have learned valuable things from each of these bodies, what most of us did not learn was the foundational concept of masculine and feminine energy.
When I refer to masculine and feminine energy, I'm not referring to the genders of male and female, I'm referring to an expression of qualities. While men tend to express more masculine energy and women tend to express more feminine energy, we all possess and express both, with either energy being our leading energy.
Pause. Take a moment to think about your qualities as I briefly describe some of the attributes of the masculine and feminine. (Note: this is only a partial list; I think you'll get the point).
Masculine - Linear, direct/projective, focused, logical, assertive, discipline, courageous,
Feminine - Non-linear, surrender/receptive, flowing, emotional/intuitive, nurturing, creative, unconditional love
Do the qualities in one of these columns sound more like you? Do you possess qualities in both columns? Does possessing qualities in both columns make you any more or less of the gender you identify with?
The rules we've been taught about how men and women "should" be have us boxed in and confined to a set of gender norms that cease to acknowledge that we are all a mix of masculine and feminine energies.
Understanding the nature of masculine and feminine energy and allowing space for both sides to exist can allow us to feel more authentic, self-expressed, and balanced.
This week, I invite you to take a look at which qualities feel most natural for you. I also invite you to question what "natural" means to you. Does it mean "by default" or how you were conditioned/taught to be, or does it mean, what feels most nourishing and supportive to your well-being?
More content to come. For now, take some tiny bites and digest with ease. 🙂